Saturday, May 12, 2012

Compete With The Alpha Male

Throughout the years, the female of any group is fascinated by an alpha male that


she hopes will let her bear his offspring - where the offspring have an opportunity to survive in the big, bad 
world that they will be brought into and raised in. These females are not in the hunt for a
relationship that is meaningful and long-term. All they are looking for is quick interlude then have the privilege of bearing a child. The alpha male, is lucky in this regard, since he has a gang and while he must protect them all, he does not provide them all individual attention of himself.


This does ring true to the alpha male human. The alpha male is extremely loyal to those people he chooses to defend and will go out of his way to not hurt them; but he was also not  them heart. A female of captures and pins down the alpha male is truly a rare woman. Since  there are many other "fish in the sea" who are seeking more than what the alpha male can offer, it would be indeed these fishes that will defeat the alpha male's grasp on the female he has chosen to set his sights upon.


A non-alpha male must remember that when he goes into a relationship, he needs to be going
in as if he is looking for an everlasting mate but not expecting one either. This means do not
propose on the second date, no matter if the woman you want to propose to is the woman of
your dreams. A woman who chooses to be with a non-alpha male will go into any relationship
cautiously and eyes wide open. She will look to see what the man she has chosen has to offer.
He will need to provide her with a sheltered financial future (this can easily be done by going to college and setting a realistic ten-year plan in your twenties.) She will also look for emotional security that she would be lacking in the alpha male. 




The man who is not an alpha  male should 
not be with a woman if he feels he cannot give himself to a situation that is going to matter. He will need to keep things light and be friends with the female that way he would not get a bad reputation with female acquaintances.


Remember if you are not an alpha male, you may have to fight to get where you want. While
you are without the advantage, you do have resources at your disposal. Take advantage of a
situation where the female sees you at your best, if it is possible. If not, try to establish that.
Women love confident men.


Things not to do:
* Stutter
* Drool

* Spill Your Drink
* Say anything that resembles a pick-up or come-on line


Things to do:
* Smile (naturally of course)
* Talk in the normal tone of voice
* Look at her in the eye
* Start the conversation. (If this seems to be a problem, pick out something in your environment that you find yourself in.)
* Walk her to her car at the end of the night
* Ger her phone number
* Most importantly, call her!


Following these guidelines and allowing a relationship to grow between you and your female
counterpart can be based on common interest and respect. Before you know it, she can look at you and say "Alpha who?"

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Sunday, April 1, 2012

Research Your Bad Habits

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Bad habits keep following you wherever you go, in some form. There are many reasons for people to start practicing bad habits. There are several ways to quit this. Several researches in the past few years have rendered results.


When people researched what is the basic motivation for people to actually quit habits that are bad, it gave the answer that it is more because of emotional reasons that people have. The successful ones are the ones who wanted to quit it badly, and succeeded, those who don’t even think of it, don’t succeed.




Knowledge is best only when it is used to influence a person’s emotional balance. For instance, if a person sets up a wide network to actually help people quit smoking, he uses his mind to influence his emotions. The penalties because of the bad habits influence the emotional balance of a person that makes them want to quit.


A research was conducted on the habitual behavior of the brain. Researches tested them with rats. Rats were made to run through a maze, which had a chocolate in the other end. The rat was learning the way through the maze, and responded to all information. After some time, the brain responded only to the starting and the ending points. This is exactly the response that our brain gives, when our brain gets used to the bad habits. It keeps focusing on its reward.


After some time, they removed the chocolate. Then, basal ganglia started responding to all the parts in the maze. This is exactly like quitting all the bad habits to live every moment in life. After some time the chocolate was put back in place, the basal ganglia started responding to the starting and ending point as before. Then, the brain again got back to the addiction, as the object was put back in place. This is exactly like the bad habits resurfacing.




A study was conducted to check the extent to which people were ready to get over the old habits and replace them with new habits. This test was conducted by testing using word tests and memorization. The research checked if the people learnt new associations after grasping similar associations first. The test was concluded, and the results were interesting. The habits that were learnt first were below the level of consciousness, and more automatic. Stress made people revert back to old habits.


There was a study related to risky behavior, and what people think about it. This survey was conducted in several parts of Canada to learn what the most dangerous thing to do was. Most of the people actually accepted that overeating, smoking and drinking were all considered most dangerous. The health habits were the most risky habits other than the thoughtless behavior. 


It is really important to learn how to react and tackle bad habits. The more information one knows, greater are the chances for them to learn the ways to get over them. With all the research being put in, the bad habits might be kicked out of the system pretty soon.





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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Manage Anger And Substance Abuse

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Anger that comes out when someone is drinking or high on drugs can be extremely destructive. Never, should you try to talk to, or reason with, or argue with someone who is under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Inebriated people are unable to process information correctly through the haze of alcohol and/or drugs. 


Substance abuse impairs decision making, and inhibitions and result in the loss of patience. If you are in an altercation with someone under the influence of any substance, leave and do not return until the individual is sober. A steadfast rule should be to never stay around to be abused by someone who is out of control with alcohol or drugs.


If you are closely involved with someone who has an abuse problem related to substance abuse

 or misuse, learn from people who have been where you are now–in relationships with angry people with abusive tendencies related to substance abuse. People in the twelve step
programs have been on the front line of your problem. These self-help groups offer your free
education about the types of problems that you are facing. Look for a program where you feel
comfortable, and make a choice based on where you feel you get the most support, and the
information and encouragement to take proactive measures to make sure you are not in harm’s way.


Once the person is calm and sober, then they should be confronted with their substance abuse and related Anger management issues. Substance abuse counseling, treatment, and anger management training can benefit people with substance abuse related anger control problems, but the bottom line is, you have a responsibility to yourself and those you love to separate yourself from such a person until they get help both for their substance abuse problems and their anger management issues.


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Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Develop Self-Esteem

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As children are growing up, parents find that one thing they are mainly concerned about is addressing the development of their child's Self-Esteem. We use Self-Esteem to judge how much we respect ourselves and more importantly, to love ourselves just the way we are.


We can develop Self-Esteem at any time in our life, but in order to build up a good foundation it is better to start in the formative years as we are growing and developing. In psychology scientists and other experts believe that how much Self-Esteem we have depends on luck itself.


Some babies are naturally born with a lot of Self-Esteem and others need to develop it further.

They also believe that parents are born with a high Self-Esteem then the likelihood of producing babies with a high Self-Esteem is better. It is not a proven fact whether genes or how we inherit our personality contribute to this factor; although some evidence shows that there could be a genetic link.


What we are born with does not predict what you are going to be like for the rest of your life, so it doesn't matter if you are born with low Self-Esteem. It can be developed at any age, so starting young gives you a good foundation to build on. Whatever we experience in life can change the levels of our Self-Esteem - that is to say that it can fluctuate.


There are many factors which can affect the way we develop our Self-Esteem, so this could in effect bring about low Self-Esteem. To a child growing up, how they are treated by the parents can have a bearing on how they think they should treat themselves, as well as their perception on how they allow others to treat them.


Group social interaction in our lives can affect the way we think - the difficulties that we face

can sometimes be traumatic, leading to low Self-Esteem, and at the opposite end of the scale our happier times can increase these levels.


How we choose our friends can be a factor that will determine how much Self-Esteem we have. Those that boost your confidence and are influential can do much to help us develop, whilst those who continually undervalue us with putdowns can leave us feeling at a low ebb.


Being surrounded by people who continually praise us and point out our abilities and other gifts, increase our self confidence, because they show that they believe in us. Placing that trust and planting these thoughts in our minds about how good we are at doing things, help us to work better. This cycle of positiveness will give us high levels of Self-Esteem.


The activities that we choose to do can also be a factor in how we build up our Self-Esteem. If you enroll on a course at College and you find that you are stuck with something you don't enjoy, this can lower your Self-Esteem, whereas a course that you really enjoy would do the opposite by making you feel more positive.


Taking part in things that you enjoy and love can build up your Self-Esteem so much that you feel a lot of enthusiasm and can give your best. As a result, you can succeed in achieving and accomplishing something that you can be proud of - increasing your Self-Esteem!



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Sunday, March 25, 2012

Improve Your Memory. Pt. 1

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For students preparing for different tests and examinations, struggling hard, would always
need assistance with tricks to make their preparations and studies easier. Several students of
different ages take advantage of knowing memory exercises. Teachers often make it a point to
help students by telling them about various memory exercises they themselves implement since they began teaching.
 
Apparently, every person should use whatever appeals them the most. Methods working for

one may not essentially work for the other. This could be demonstrated by a simple act of showing a child to tie up his laces. The child's concentration may go askew and end up in  when new method of learning is suggested. Probably, one parent shows one way and at times
grandparents disagree on best methods.


Distinctive Methods


Young children with disabilities in learning need to know constructive methods to improve
memory and have it tailored to one's own distinct capability. A struggling mind may need to
associate few things with similar colors everyday for remembering. There would be shapes that helping them not to forget or even fragrances and odors. Children with bit of impairment might learn associating through scent or touches. For an instance grandparents may have  selective perfumes or colognes worn daily.


Maintain Consistency


Quite many times teachers have varied methods of teaching when compared to that of parents.
When kids ask parents for assistance in their homework, arguments might develop as the
parents' way to achieve a result would vary from the methods teachers use. If the child is taught to be silent and not to argue, by the parent, it could result in inefficient marks on whatever is turned in. Hence one should maintain the cooperation and consistency in a parent-teacher



Healing Music


Have you tried making a silly and funny song about people who have offended you? This of


course is a great exercise to your memory, though labeled as mean. Music is a great assisting
substance essentially when it comes to teaching young kids about memory improving. This
however must be reduced using is a disparaging manner. Many a time, comedians joke with
impolite songs resulting in audience remembering the specific comedian just because the song
acted as a substance to fortify the person into one's memory. You may not even recall the
wordings, but just the tune as the results are all the same.


Games which rhyme are helpful tools for your memory. Millions of people have been brought learning to enjoy antics the characters in stories of Dr. Seuss. Most of the words there  don't
make any sense and hardly mean anything in reality. However they provided the needed help to a person with a learning disability.

Repetition


Repetition is the entire key to every memory exercise. Ensure to teach yourself to enact the
actions every other time. For an instance, put your car keys inside the purse so that they are
safe there. If you think your kids are late to school every day simply because they take time
searching for their shoes or backpack, make them to learn to keep items in the allocated place every evening. Such minor memory tricks ascertain to keep your boss glad when you get tooffice everyday.




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